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The Downside of "Shacking-Up"

Posted 14 months ago|14 comments|515 views
Just the facts !:]
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A New York Times article called "The Downside of Cohabiting Before Marriage," has caused quite a firestorm said the author, speaking of her article about the risks of "living in sin... The article said while the practice of cohabiting is up 1500 percent in the past 50 years, "Couples who cohabit before marriage (and especially before an engagement or an otherwise clear commitment) tend to be less satisfied with their marriages, and more likely to divorce, than couples who do not."
http://mynorthwest.com/75/663474/Author-...

"...About two-thirds said they believed that moving in together before marriage was a good way to avoid divorce...But that belief is contradicted by experience. Couples who cohabit before marriage (and especially before an engagement or an otherwise clear commitment) tend to be less satisfied with their marriages — and more likely to divorce — than couples who do not..."
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/15/opinio...%29

Wow, without saying "We told you so" ...we did !:]

Not once was a Bible quoted, or a preacher referenced, to make the point that living together before marriage has a negative effect on couples. I think that unless the New York Times says it... it just ain't so! That being said, our nations liberal media and public schools will continue to meme the opposite of the bare facts!

It seems it is not enough to present facts and figures, if ones holding an apposing view don't want to hear it. It then becomes a matter of faith... and they are the ones who keep telling us... that if you have "faith" the facts don't matter... and it would appear so in this case. Regardless of the press pro-Christian results get, there is an atheistic agenda to wash brains of all reason. Oh "they" say "think outside the box" but then they eliminate everything that doesn't agree with their program.... SOMEBODY NEEDS TO PAY FOR GOVERNMENT PROVIDED CONDOMS!~

Just like a false religion, this government subsidized hedonistic mindset is administered... in full living color both at school and over the waves, yet contrary to "separation of church and state" their preachers get retirement packages and holiday benefits. Just try not sending your kids to their church/school ...you will be in for a hell of an inquisition! And (their god forbid) you teach your kids the heresy of abstinence, and purity.... you may have your freedom of speech revoked!

The worst part is these characters that are leading our youths, act like the law...
WELL, I have something to tell these phony Cops, and they better listen...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gxhuUdZzG...
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TheLegendTomWing
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14 months ago: Well, it's certainly interesting. Although, I'm a bit biased considering I cohabitate--but I would imagine other things may contribute other than just the act of cohabitating. I have no evidence, just my 2 cents.
14 months ago: Thanks Tom,

Your 2 Cents is probably worth more than most !:]
14 months ago: There are many contributing factors, and with women most have to do with security and perceived commitment. Some say that marriage is just a "piece of paper" ...as true as that is, so is an insurance policy, mortgage or drivers licence !:]
14 months ago: " speaking of her article about the risks of "living in sin" and you were so proud of not mentioning the Bible.

Living in sin is a direct reference to religious teachings, be they Biblical or otherwise so I have to discount the whole shebang as more religious stumping for not living together withyout tying the knot.
14 months ago: Six...

SO like your type, who cares what the facts are, if they are from "religious whackjobs" they don't count? The facts remain... marriages last longer if the couples didn't cohabitate before...

"The article said while the practice of cohabiting is up 1500 percent in the past 50 years, "Couples who cohabit before marriage (and especially before an engagement or an otherwise clear commitment) tend to be less satisfied with their marriages, and more likely to divorce, than couples who do not."
http://mynorthwest.com/75/663474/Author-...
14 months ago: The original was a NY Times article...

"The Downside of Cohabiting Before Marriage"
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/15/opinio...
14 months ago: Yep, that's my type. I always ignore the facts when religion is involved.


Actually I love it when religious fanatics find human nature facts to use to beef up their religious beliefs.
14 months ago: And you admittedly use ignorance to "beef up" your unbelief? Faith is faith... yours is in one thing and mine in another... we chose to gravitate to the evidence that supports our belief.... some love God, and others hate Him.
14 months ago: Not hardly. Don't take that sentence to heart as it was said just to rile you.

I get the facts, I just don't bend them to fit the situation. I don't hunt and pick to add fuel to my "case". Face value does have some value, although you sometimes have to use your own brain to determine the truth of the facts.

Why must it be love or hate? How about indifference?

If a person formerly known not to believe in any Gods is facing a bad situation and he utters the phrase "Dear God" does that mean he is turning to God or just uttering a common phrase? A religious person will say he finally saw the light. A logical person will just say he uttered Dear God.
14 months ago: Jesus said...

"The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks." Luke 6:45
14 months ago: BTW Six..

Don't take "your type" label to heart as it was said just to rile you !:]
Good Jousting!
14 months ago: Also...

"How about indifference?"
...you protest way to much to be just indifferent !:]
14 months ago: "their standards for a live-in partner are lower than they are for a spouse. " As the article stated and as the study proved out, the whole thing is about doing things the easy way, not really thinking or discussing what is going on, what the plan is for the future, just living together out of convience. If you don't expect it to work out or have no desire to make it work out, it probably won't and that is where most of those failed relationships came from.

Same for the marraiges that ended in divorce without cohabitating first, one or both of the couple didn't really commit or felt that they could get out if they didn't like it.

All in all the "living in sin" statement was foolish as it had nothing to do with the research she did. She put a religious spin to a non religious research topic, if you can believe what she says.....

The media probably whould have ignored it had she never stated it that way.

14 months ago: Six,

I am going to have to agree with what you said (I know, surprising !:])... on all counts, yet it doesn't change the accuracy of the stats, regardless of the contributing factors or motives for cohabitation. That would even bolster the argument, for better morals or motives when living together... in marriage.

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