Here it is! This is the definitive expose on welfare mom mentality. Okay, maybe that is a bit presumptuous of me. It might not be definitive and it might not be an expose but it is definitely about welfare mom mentality or at least I think it is. Please be sure to let me know what this rant was about once you are done reading it, okay? It so happens to be that part of my efforts to reduce my carbon footprint include taking public transportation instead of the family vehicle. This is not my ideal mode of transportation since it requires a bit more planning and patience than is required with my own private transportation but it is relatively speaking more economical and more eco friendly. All in all it is worth the minor inconvenience that it causes me.
So here is my story. I was riding the bus the day I wrote this. I was minding my own business waiting for my stop when in strolls this young over weight twenty something woman with a stroller and two children in addition to the one in the stroller in tow. All three of her children were under the age of three. Correct me if I’m wrong please. Human, female mammals require 9 months to gestate a pregnancy to term. Correct? This being the case, the woman that strolled into the bus must have been pregnant three consecutive years in a row. Right?
Perhaps she wasn’t fat. It is winter and she was wearing a bubble down coat. Perhaps what she was instead of being fat is pregnant, placing her at a record fourth year in a row! Nah! I’m pretty sure she was fat. But that does not preclude her from being pregnant. I’m no obstetrician but I believe a woman can be obese and pregnant simultaneously. At least I think so. Please tell me if I’m wrong on this one. However I don’t think I am. She was fat and possibly pregnant with three little ones all under the age of three. Can anybody say wow?
Okay, set that mental picture aside. It was for illustrative purposes only. It helps set the story I’m ranting about. Done? Good. This lady was a welfare mom. How do I know? Here are a couple of clues. First, she referred to one of her babies daddy as “her man.” Just a tip folks, if a woman refers to a male individual that has sired her offspring as “her man” then most likely they are not married. An unmarried woman with three children under the age of three and possibly one on the way is most likely not independently wealthy but has no visible means of support either, which puts her in the category of “Who is paying for this?” My biased opinion is, “most likely welfare.”
Another clue is obesity. Now I think I know what you are thinking. “Obesity? Really? Come on Siempre, how is obesity a clue to her status as a welfare recipient?” Here is the thing. Several studies over the past few decades have concluded similar results. They have found out that poor people or people of strapped economic means have significant more problems with obesity than do people that are more well of. It turns out that junk food, empty calories and cheap food are all inexpensive while healthy food is significantly more expensive. The obvious result being that poor people will be more likely to suffer from weight related issues than the rich. If the lady on the bus is single, fat and with no visible means of support than the likelihood that she receives government subsidies increases dramatically.
So let’s just say that I’m not a judgmental pig and that my assessment of this obese, possibly pregnant mother of three children all under the age of three is correct and that she is in fact a single, welfare mom then what exactly is her mentality? What is the mentality of a welfare mom and how do I know that this frame of mind is all inclusive and applicable not just to this lady but a whole slew of other females in her same condition? How can I be certain that it is a particular form of thinking that leads to that certain predicament that she finds herself in?
Well truth be told, no one can really be positive of anything even the laws of physics fall apart at the quantum level so it seems that close scrutiny of anything will reveal flaws no matter how well thought out anything is. That being the case I’m not going to say with any definitive certainty that I have clearly pinpointed a major discovery. On the contrary what I will do is just provide my humble observation and let you dear reader come to whatever conclusion you so desire. Fair enough? Yeah, I thought so too.
Here is what I’ve noticed. Women with apparent welfare mom mentality have certain common characteristically illogical behavioral traits. Count them. She has lots of apparently unplanned pregnancies back to back. How do I know that they are unplanned? If she has no visible means of support and she gets pregnant back to back then those pregnancies are either unplanned or a demonstration of very poor judgment. She is constantly talking about relationship issues. I can’t say this is a coincidence because every time the conversation is always the same. It inevitably includes her “baby’s daddy.” Sugary soft drinks in her baby’s bottle, any responsible parent knows that this is a bad idea. Foul language intermittently dispersed throughout a conversation is definitely an indication of poor social skills. Skills that such a person obviously lacks.
No long term goals is something that one could easily say is not observable from a transitory observation of an individual on a city bus but you would be surprised dear reader how much a very loud person that does not shut up once through out the course of a bus ride can say about themselves to everyone around her unintentionally. Little or no engaging dialogue with her brood of under three year old is another sure fire indication of welfare mom mentality. I’m telling you that the list can be very long but these should suffice to establish a basis for a definition. Welfare mom mentality is a condition brought about and exacerbated by youthful folly as defined by carelessly spending her time in pursuit of frivolity and unproductive behavior. It is the maturation of a wasted youth into a wasted adult hood. In men it manifests itself as the guy’s who hangout in front of the corner store with, “his boys” but in women it manifests itself as welfare mom mentality. So there you have it.
Thank you for reading!
P.S. I did manage to get of the bus uneventfully. If you consider a brain full of someone else’s personal escapades uneventful. However now that I shared with you the apparent cause of the matter I do feel a bit unburdened. You however will have to find another method of unburdening yourself. Sorry about that.