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Time to Ban Straight Marriage – Failed Social Experiment

Posted 24 months ago|12 comments|872 views
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Coloranter Raver
Denver, CO
Social conservatives argue that straight marriage in the United States must be protected under the law. Using a few scattered references to what they claim is straight marriage mentioned in the Bible, they justify it as what God wanted and as what is natural. James Daly, president of Focus on the Family, claims the Bible to be a, "...sacred text...true and inspired." (source) Unfortunately for Mr. Daly and all followers of the Christian faith in the USA, the USA is not a Christian theocracy and there is no earthly reason that federal, state, or local governments should be legalizing or protecting the rights of straight people to marry. If marriage is a sacred religious practice, then that's where it should stay, in the realm of the religions and among the people that practice them. The time has come to do away with legal protections afforded to a religious construct that has proven to be nothing but a colossal failed social experiment in human behavior.

Modern statistics continue to show a consistent failure rate among straight marriages with over 50% ending in divorce with strong correlations between the ages of the straight people getting married and the duration of their marriages as well as success rates. divorcerate.org One need only look to the political leaders of this country recent and past from new admissions by former Republican Governor of California Arnold Schwarzenegger and Democratic Vice Presidential nominee John Edwards to rumors and speculations of past leaders from times before media scrutiny became a national pass-time. What about adultery? Remember the grave admissions of New Life Church Ted Haggard who cheated on his wife with a male prostitute for years? Some statistics show as many as 22% of married men cheat on their wives and 14% of wives cheat on their husbands. (source)

Meanwhile, divorce and adultery are just the first half of the problems with straight marriage. There's spousal abuse, domestic violence, and even spouses murdering each other. (stats) Plus, who can forget Lorena Bobbett's revenge? The point is that straight marriage leads to grave levels of domestic discord from raging child custody suits to restraining orders to full-up shelters for battered women. All of this is a huge drain on the legal system and makes no one but attorneys rich. It also shows that pretty close to a majority of straight people can handle neither the Biblical covenant of marriage nor the legally protected aspects with the rights, privileges, and responsibilities afforded this special legally protected status under the eyes of the law.

Therefore, it is time to ban straight marriage altogether. If people want to get married in the eyes of any church that will let them, fine, but the government doesn't need to be involved, offering tax breaks, incentives, special laws, and protections. Straight Americans have not demonstrated they can even comply with the simplest elements of the laws regarding marriage so why build it and protections into the legal system?


Angry? Think this is idiotic? Think that straight marriage laws should be preserved? Think they serve a purpose? Willing to fight for it? Go look in the mirror and ask yourself how on earth, then, gay people aren't worthy the same rights. You cannot have it both ways. You cannot go on and on about the rights of straight people to marry and use the Bible as your only defense for why gay people should not be married. Sorry, but the Bible has no standing in US law any more than the Qur'an does. The US Constitution calls for a clear separation of church and state. Neither Biblical laws nor Quranic laws can be used to defend or formulate US federal law. Short of people's own personal prejudices and their religious faith, how on earth can gay people be denied the right to marry under US law? It's insane.


This piece was written in direct response to James Daly's, president of Focus on the Family, essay for FOXNews called "Why the same-sex marriage experiment will not work". To Mr. Daly, how has the straight marriage social experiment worked?

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Out Of The Box
Out Of The Box
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24 months ago: Can you list any "tax breaks, incentives, special laws, and protections" offered by the government to married persons?

I'm thinking that if other Biblical principals were applied in a marriage, there would be far fewer divorces.

And marriage has been fantasized by culture to the point that too many people are getting married for the wrong reasons.
Coloranter Raver
Coloranter Raver
Denver, CO
24 months ago: (a) Here's a great investor-related site on all the tax benefits one can accrue by marriage: http://www.investopedia.com/articles/ret....

On top of this, protections...community property laws, inheritance of benefits, joint insurance benefits and retirement benefits.

(b) I don't necessarily disagree with your second point except: there are a lot of principles related to marriage in parts of the Bible I have read that I think would not encourage many young women to marry in the first place (something about being property and staying in the home etc., but I'm sure TB can quote them for us precisely using his instaquote Bible expertise). As for following the Bible, there would be zero divorces and divorce wouldn't even be legal, right?

(c) I think you are 100% right on this point. Way too many young people are getting married for all the wrong reasons.
Altruist
Altruist
Eugene, OR
24 months ago: There are over 1300 rights granted to married couples that are denied LGBT couples.
http://www.allju.com/topics/marriage-dis...

Perhaps OOTB is correct and if we instated a Christian Sharia law and stoned people to death if they cheated on their spouses then traditional marriage would be more stable.

Good post though CR! The same folk that say they are for small government and less government intrusion in our lives and restrictions of our freedoms, are the first to want government intrusion in our bedrooms, telling us who we can sleep with, denying us birth control and denying access to safe abortions.

I think this hypocrisy is perhaps because they are the ones most prone to cheating on their spouses, and those most vocally opposed to gay liaisons are the ones that are closet homosexuals, that are insecure in their sexuality.
24 months ago: Great concept, CR!

Eliminate divorce laws (and lawyers), and all the acrimony that goes along with that. If 2 people enter into some sort of relationship, it is up to them from the outset to deal with the assets and the liabilities as they go along. If they split, anything owned jointly goes 50/50 and anything owned individually stays that way.

The only issue left for the courts would be the children.
Coloranter Raver
Coloranter Raver
Denver, CO
24 months ago: Thanks. My biggest concern actually is the kids. They suffer no matter what anyone thinks.
24 months ago: You end up with this mess when folks don't know what a covenant is. The hearts and motivations are screwed up on both sides, without question.

Idiots across the board.
Coloranter Raver
Coloranter Raver
Denver, CO
24 months ago: It's all about commit tent and responsibility. If you cannot commit and cannot take responsibility don't get married. DO NOT HAVE KIDS.
24 months ago: I see your point, actually I don't but you can believe whatever you want! It's actually a bit funny. Heh, heh!
24 months ago: There is a simple answer Colorado.

Jesus said a man marries a woman.

He didn't say a man marries a man.

Period.

You cannot pick and chose what rules you want to follow because you're the smartest person ever to live in the world.
Coloranter Raver
Coloranter Raver
Denver, CO
24 months ago: Oh, thanks RSG, I didn't realize I was the smartest person in the world! That's great news.

How about this, how about you show or tell me where Jesus said anything about who should marry whom. because, I'm unaware that he ever had an opinion on the subject. I know he had a few opinions on judgement and how that was reserved for God, but I'm not aware that he ever said one thing about marriage. See, I guess I"m not that smart after all or I'd be able to source the Jesus quotations needed here. So, show me up and do it for me, won't you be so kind?
BadCyborg
BadCyborg
San Antonio, TX
24 months ago: I personally do not see how GLBT people being married in any way impacts my marriage of 39 years. But then I am a "you do your thing, I'll do mine" kind of guy. You can do what you want in your back yard as long as you KEEP it in your back yard. I will do likewise.

For decades I have said "I don't care WHO you sleep with, WHAT you sleep with or IF you sleep. Kindly take it elsewhere." Holding hands is fine. Standing somewhere in a public place is NOT. I don't care if it's MF, MM, FF, M?, F? or ??. Take it elsewhere if you please.
Altruist
Altruist
Eugene, OR
24 months ago: If we do away with government marriage rules, regulations, and incentives, life would be much simpler. Relationships rarely last forever despite the commitment.

As was pointed out the most important thing is the kids. In a way a committed monogamous relationship is in the long run harmful for kids because it is so traumatic when they inevitably split up.

Extended marriage and extended families with a small community helping raise the kids is much healthier. That way when one or two folks move on, it is not so traumatic. Having LGBT folk in the mix helps expand options and minds.

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