Okay, I haven't been on here in a bit, but I logged back in because something has really been irking me lately.
WHY IS IT 'NORMAL', CONSIDERED OKAY, AND ENCOURAGED FOR PEOPLE TO HATE THEMSELVES??!!!!!
First of all, WTF?!! Secondly, it's NOT normal OR natural and should NEVER be! Forget opinion, this is the TRUTH! People don't naturally hate themselves, not until they get around idiots!
As my username implies, I wear locs. That means I wear my natural hair. For a black female, it's kind of a big deal (though for me, not as much). I'm ALL about natural hair, as I see straightening methods as a form (and an aggressive one) of self-hate. However, I also believe in 'Live and Let Live'. Meaning, as long as people leave me alone about MY hair, I won't say anything about what they do to theirs.
I'm also a firm believer in the HAES/Size Acceptance movement. This encourages people to just live their lives, regardless of what size they may be. If they want to gain weightr, lose weight, or do nothing at all, that's their decision, but they shouldn't be made to feel bad for it, or for how they look. I'd prefer if people didn't care about weight at all, honestly.
I get people telling me all the time how hair SHOULD be straightened, and I get people telling me all the time how people SHOULD be concerned about weight. What? WHY?!!!
This is what irritates me. Why should I or anyone else be EXPECTED to do such things just because someone else does them? Why should ANYONE hate themselves because some other fool is unhappy?
Why is it encouraged for people to hate themselves instead of just living life? Don't tell me it's not, because I KNOW it is. As soon as you start encouraging people to stop internalizing other people's standards and hatred, you get looks, and people making claims of trying to start trouble.
Some woman actually told me that it's a problem if people DON'T think about weight all the time. The heck? For most of history weight wasn't an issue like it is now. It was only in the last hundred years or so that people were encouraged to hate their bodies the way they do. The worst thing about that woman's comment was that it came from another black woman with natural hair who obviously doesn't see her hypocrisy. So, it's okay to not care about relaxers and other straightening methods and encourage others to wear their natural hair, but wrong to NOT care about weight and encourage others to not hate themselves or be obsessed with weight? Whatever, stupid lady. Don't give me BS claims of 'health' because people would be better off just going about their business instead of stressing about every little thing.
It's like people just CAN'T be satisfied unless everyone else hates SOMETHING about themselves.