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HEY BLACK BOY ! IM NOT YOUR WHITE BOY!

Posted 10 months ago|14 comments|406 views
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NOTYOURBOY
Crystal Lake, IL
I remember the sixties when blacks did not like to be called boy and I imagine that it is still the case. So why does the news media not question black folk on the use of the racist term "white boy" on white people like me?. I won't stand for this racist expression being cast upon me. I had to end a long term relationship with a black women of 8 years because her family would use this expression and caused me arguments and fights with them before I left. I dont know what idiot is working at the censors office but he can't be a man to allow this to continue. THIS SITUATION MUST BE ADDRESSED!
Having this expression said to me is in no way cool or funny. If its ok to call me a man a white boy then its ok to call other races brown boy and black boy and yellow boy etc. . I don't care what you think but I won't stand for this crap and the NEWS media allows it without questioning it. I have got into many fights over this expression in order to retain my man hood and dignity. The question is why is this
allowed to continue? The reason this expression is allowed to be used is a means of control over the white middle class and lower and a appeasment of sorts to the black folks and allowed by the white rich and powerful. I really don't care what the reason is but the use of this expression "White Boy" has to be stopped before someone is going to get shot and it might be me shot or someone who says it to me. I say hey black boy I'm not your white boy when I am called white boy. I don't go around saying black boy unless they call me white boy and I will continue to do it and I am sure some cowards will leave a message saying white boy to me
because thats what they are. And now I am done ranting.
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10 months ago: "I had to end a long term relationship with a black women of 8 years "

What does that mean? If you were having sex with her, why did you not marry her and y'all tell the "family" to either respect or step off?

Hmmm?
10 months ago: NYB,
I suspect that you have underlying issues that you are either unaware of or not discussing here in this rant. The word boy and girl for that matter are used and applied differently under different context. This does not just apply to the black community either. Take for example the terms boyfriend and girlfriend. It is clear that an adult male that is involved in an unmarried yet romantic relationship with an adult female is not a boy nor is she a girl yet each one will be referred to respectively as her boyfriend or his girlfriend.

Moreover close friends especially among the twenty set and younger have taken to referring to their circle of friends as, "my boys" and "my girls" . Also the hip hop community has popularized the slang term "son" when refering to some one else of less experience than the person using the term. All this is to indicate that the context and manner in which the word boy or girl is used will dictate the nature and intention of its usage.

The Jim Crow Era usage of the word boy has almost completely disappeared with one notable exception, cowboy. The word Cowboy was traditionally applied to black male cowhands because, as you said, boy was the derogatory term of choice by racist people for black men. However the term stuck and eventually all cowhands came to be known as cowboys, even the female ones.

A bit of history is also in order here if you are to better understand why people in the black community would refer to you as a "white boy". The term boy was not only used among whites to refer to black men it was also used among black elders to refer to younger generational males. The word white or black was applied to boy only to aid in the description. Its usage has a completely different intention then its racist application by whites.

You will notice that black militant organizations that may employ derogatory terms for white men will choose other colorful euphemisms but that "white boy" is almost exclusively not one of them. If you still with me at this point and are still reading I would suggest to you that you re evaluate why the term "White boy" offends you so much. It could be that perhaps you have inferiority issues that might stem from other unrelated problems, such as growing up in a black neighborhood and confronting bullies or making less money then your black girlfriend or being insecure of your identity as a white male when around her black family. Any number of issues can trigger such feelings of insecurity. Ultimately only you can address these issues but from what you have described my unprofessional opinion is that you are making a mountain out of a molehill. In any case good luck with all that.
NOTYOURBOY
NOTYOURBOY
Crystal Lake, IL
10 months ago: I AM COMMENTING ON SOME HYPE ACTING AS THE ROCK! GROW UP IF YOU HAVE NO INSECURITIES WHY ARE YOU PROTECTING THE RIGHT TO USE THE TERM WHITE BOY SO VIGOROUSLY . YOU AINT THE ROCK AND YOU AINT EVEN A TINY PEBBLE. SO KEEP YOUR BS IN YOUR ACE. PLUS MOST
PSYCOLOGISTS OR PSYCHIATRISTS ARE BISEXUAL AND SO I GUESS YOUR IN DEPTH BS ANALYSIS CAN ONLY LEAD US TO THE FACT THAT YOU ARE TOO.
TRY TO IMPRESS SOMEONE WHO GIVES A CRAP YOU MAN-WOMEN DIME STORE SOCIAL WORKER AND HOW INSECURE ARE YOU CLAIMING TO BE THE ROCK WHICH YOU AINT LIL TINY JOHNSON.
NOTYOURBOY
NOTYOURBOY
Crystal Lake, IL
10 months ago: LAST COMMENT I HEARD THE ROCK IS GAY AND IF IT IS HIM COMMENTING I GUESS THERE IS THE PROOF! LOL
10 months ago: WOW! Did I hit a nerve or what? Sounds to me like I was right on the money. But like I said you've got to figure things out for yourself! Again, good luck with that.
10 months ago: The difference between being a man and being a boy is the acceptance of responsibility, not arriving at a particular age.

I'm waiting for your answer to my initial question. Thanks.
10 months ago: I think he might not have an answer for you Huey. Too bad I wanted to read it too.
NOTYOURBOY
NOTYOURBOY
Crystal Lake, IL
10 months ago: TO THE 2 PERSONALITIES IF YOU CAN CALL THEM THAT. YOU DIDNT GET TO ME AND THIS ISNT DEBATE CLASS AND I DONT OWE EITHER OF YOU WHO I KNOW ARE THE SAME PERSON ANY KIND OF ANSWER OR RESPONSE. I SAID MY PEACE AND THATS IT AND I WAS IN VIETNAM AND MY BALLS HAIRS ARE MORE A MAN THAN U WILL EVER B AND I AM 60 AND GO ON THE WEST SIDE OF CHICAGO ON MADISON BETWEEN HAMLIN AND CENTRAL ALL THE TIME AS I HAVE ANOTHER BLACK GIRL FRIEND THERE AND YOU 2 COULDNT SURVIVE WHERE I GO CAUSE YOU 2 GIRLS AINT TOUGH ENOUGH OR KNOW THE STREET AND I AM DONE RESPONDING TO OU 2 NERDS AS I HAD MY DEGREE
IN COMPUTERS AND NOT ENGLISH OR JOURNALISM AND I DIDNT TAKE DEBATE CLASS EITHER . SO WHY DONT YOU JUST REALIZE YOU LOST THIS ONE OR CANT YOUR EGO TAKE IT?
NOTYOURBOY
NOTYOURBOY
Crystal Lake, IL
10 months ago: TO THE 2 PERSONALITIES IF YOU CAN CALL THEM THAT. YOU DIDNT GET TO ME AND THIS ISNT DEBATE CLASS AND I DONT OWE EITHER OF YOU WHO I KNOW ARE THE SAME PERSON ANY KIND OF ANSWER OR RESPONSE. I SAID MY PEACE AND THATS IT AND I WAS IN VIETNAM AND MY BALLS HAIRS ARE MORE A MAN THAN U WILL EVER B AND I AM 60 AND GO ON THE WEST SIDE OF CHICAGO ON MADISON BETWEEN HAMLIN AND CENTRAL ALL THE TIME AS I HAVE ANOTHER BLACK GIRL FRIEND THERE AND YOU 2 COULDNT SURVIVE WHERE I GO CAUSE YOU 2 GIRLS AINT TOUGH ENOUGH OR KNOW THE STREET AND I AM DONE RESPONDING TO OU 2 NERDS AS I HAD MY DEGREE
IN COMPUTERS AND NOT ENGLISH OR JOURNALISM AND I DIDNT TAKE DEBATE CLASS EITHER . SO WHY DONT YOU JUST REALIZE YOU LOST THIS ONE OR CANT YOUR EGO TAKE IT?
NOTYOURBOY
NOTYOURBOY
Crystal Lake, IL
10 months ago: LAST THOUGHT -I DONT HAVE ANYTHING TO EXAMINE OR THINK ABOUT ONLY
HOW EGOTISTIC SOME PEOPLE CAN BE LIKE YOU GUYS WHO THINK THEY KNOW IT ALL ENOUGH TO THINK I HAVE A PROBLEM AND YOU DON'T. I THINK
YOU HAVE A PROBLEM IN THAT YOU WASTE YOUR TIME HERE INSTEAD OF ON A REAL NEWSPAPER. WHATS THE MATTER CANT MAKE IT IN THE REAL WORLD?
10 months ago: So you can spend 15 minutes writing in capital letters why you refuse to respond to a legitimate question but you can't come up with an actual response in all that time? Very Interesting!
10 months ago: News Flash - This is a information and debate forum.

Sounds like I struck a major nerve too. You do avoid responsibility other wise you would have given an intelligent response rather spouting off nonsense.

What was your purpose in posting int he first place If you didn't expect any response? That doesn't seem very smart.

"SO WHY DONT YOU JUST REALIZE YOU LOST THIS ONE OR CANT YOUR EGO TAKE IT? "

Lost what? You have yet to directly respond to my initial question. That makes you the loser.

It seems to me you have some serious issues. I feel sorry for any female that would spend time with the likes of you. No commitment (fear) and apparently no class (ignorant) as well.

Having balls does not make you a man, by the way. It makes you male. And no mature man would have responded to my honest questions in the way you have. That's pretty sad.

Also, regardless of how old you are you still have plenty of growing up to do.

Given time you may one day find the resources within yourself to have an intelligent dialogue rather than post the ignorant babble which seems to flow so easily from you.
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10 months ago: NYB,
Perhaps your problem could also stem from living in a predominantly poor, drug infested and gang riddled community that happens to be mostly populated with African Americans. If you are one of the few whites living in this area and you are from the Vietnam War era then perhaps you feel that you always have something to prove.

Most Vietnam War vets came back with mental and emotional scars. Most of them have had difficulty fitting back into society. They have had financial problems too and if your story is in anyway similar to my description then perhaps adding racial disparity to the mix might create a formula for disaster.

I understand that you might feel like you fit in, in all points except your race and that being called, "white boy" is like throwing that one and only difference back in your face. This might thus lead you to receive an otherwise innocuous term of endearment as a divisive and derogatory insult.

If this is the case I suggest that you muster the courage to swallow your pride. Step back from your current situation and reexamine who you are. You are a White, lower middleclass, sixty something, Vietnam War veteran, male, who lives in a rough area surrounded by people that you identify with but may not completely get along with. This is not entirely your fault. The War F*cked with your head! It is hard to trust people after you spend several years killing in order to just stay alive.

But this should not dictate the rest of your life. While you may have had little control over what happened in the war and in the way fellow Americans treated you when you came back it most certainly is not the case now. Now you are your own man and every choice you make determines how you are perceived, treated and even respected.

Your response to two completely anonymous responders here on the world wide web is just a sliver of the obnoxious probably toxic personality your peers have to deal with. This may be another stem of your problem along with whom you are relating too. Remember that other people also have their own problems too and that they may not take the time like Huey and I have to tell you, "What it is", "like it is"! Don't expect black people to accept you as black! You are not black. You are white and that is okay!

I am of mixed heritage and I can tell you from my own experience that I am not fully accepted in black or white circles. Even mixed people sometimes show disdain because I do not have their exact mixture. So buck up soldier and keep your chin up!
10 months ago: OP said "I have got into many fights over this expression in order to retain my man hood and dignity."

I reply, "You must have lost that fight."

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